For those who don't know how to quit the sex industry
I want to quit the sex industry, but I don't know what to do.
We receive consultations from people who are vaguely thinking about working in the sex industry because they have sleepless nights every day, are not saving as much money as they thought they would, and have never done a regular job before.
Just thinking about working a day job is a hassle, isn't it? But even if you wait until late at night every day, the customers are always new, and there are no free customers, and you end up serving tea several times. Haven't you ever thought, "I want to quit?"
For example, when you get home from work and take a shower, you try to "forget about it as soon as possible," but you just can't. Or, no matter how much you wash your hair, the smell just won't go away...
Night jobs are often much more unreasonable than day jobs. Even if you encounter a bad customer (a customer who is really strong or traumatic), and you are heartbroken, when the manager says to you, "Why didn't you refuse?" and "That's your own fault," you decide to quit. However, some people don't know how to quit a night job, don't know what will happen after they quit, and think they might go back.
At Pappus, we empathize with the feeling that "night work is the only job I can do."
Why not get a day job and quit the sex industry?
Many of our clients are worried about whether they will be able to quit the sex industry properly, so why not join us in thinking about things like future lifestyle suggestions, how to save money, how to find work, how to write a resume, etc.?
Papus' consultations are free of charge (we rely on your donations to run the business). Please don't bear it all on your own, come join us and get your life back.
You can quit today
The time to quit is when you feel like you've reached your limit and can't continue any more.
There are often articles that say things like "It's a short-term battle," "Set a target amount," and "Preparation funds," and suggest how much money you should save before quitting, but these days it's easier to save money by working a day job.
If you want to quit, we will work with you to find a way to continue working in a daytime job from the next day. We have various systems in place to make this possible.
Even if you are still thinking about quitting, Pappus will not tell you to quit. We will listen to your feelings, think together about what you should do, and help you sort out the issues you are currently facing.
Some people say that "people who are struggling to quit the sex industry are being lazy in some way," but that's a mistake. There is a reason why they can't quit.
The longer you work in the sex industry, the more you may feel like this is where you belong.
Some customers have found their own value, felt the attraction of being needed, or felt a temporary fulfillment in mind and body. One customer said, "The customers were a mental stabilizer."
This is only temporary, and if you fall into a negative spiral, you will not be able to escape from the sex industry. In particular, people who feel worthless, who care about external evaluations, and who want to be recognized by others often fall into this spiral. This can also apply to people who have a strong sense of responsibility.
The "anxiety" that comes with the sex industry can fill the loneliness . If your daily life is just going back and forth between your home and the shop, and your social relationships are limited to the shop staff or the community of other workers, you may find yourself escaping reality in a strange way. Some people have complained that they were on the edge of despair without even realizing it.
At Pappus, why not join us in thinking about how to live your life and save money in a way that suits your pace?
Of course, we support our clients in quitting the sex industry and finding a day job, while being considerate of their wishes to quit peacefully and safely . Some clients choose to continue working in the sex industry after consulting with us, and we respect that as much as possible as it is their choice .
At Pappus, we ask you to tell us about your concerns.
I would be happy to consult with you on any matter.
Please read the consultation procedure for more details.
Consultation process
① Please contact us by phone , inquiry form , or email . After that, we will arrange a date that is convenient for you and our staff to meet. We are available on Sundays, holidays, and at night.
② Two staff members will listen to the client's story. Most of the time, the staff will be female, but since Pappus also has male staff, when meeting with a female client, we will ask if she would be okay with a male supporter.
③ The event will be held in a rented conference room at a public institution (women's counseling center) in Tokyo.
④ If you are unable to come to Tokyo for some reason, we will arrange an interview location and staff according to the circumstances.
⑤ The consultation will last about 1-2 hours. You can leave at any time.
⑥ We will listen to what you want to discuss. It is okay if you have not yet properly organized what you want to say. As you talk in your own words, you may gradually come to understand "this is what I wanted to say."
⑦ You may remain anonymous during the first interview. If you choose to remain anonymous, we will ask for a nickname.
⑧ We spend an hour or two listening to you and clarify what you want to do most right now, what you want to solve. This is called determining your main complaint. Once you have determined your main complaint, we will think about what you need to do to solve it and work together with you to address it.
9. If you are really nervous about meeting the Pappus staff for the first time, it's okay to take a slightly roundabout route and talk to them on the phone. Talk to them on the phone and make sure you can trust them.
⑩ Our operating expenses are covered by donations from many people, so consultations are free of charge.
